Many people try to comfort someone with Major Depressive Disorder. Sadly, they hurt more than they help. We all have witnessed someone who tried to help us but actually made us feel more miserable than before. Here are the sentences which truly comfort someone in an episode of MDD.
NO MATTER HOW HARD IT GETS, I AM THERE FOR YOU
You are not a god, you cannot control events, no matter how hard you try, you will not be able to change a given situation. With that, you can assure your friend, or partner, that you will be there for them, no matter what. And sometimes, those simple words can help us get through those nasty moods.
I’M HERE TO LISTEN.
We don’t particularly like when people try to give us advice, although they have no idea, how it is like to be stuck in an episode of depression. That’s why we’re just glad if we can rely on you to listen to our ramblings. But beware, not all of us like to talk when an episode hits us.
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DO WE NEED TO GET HELP?
Often, we find ourselves in situations where we are unable to get help. That’s where you can come into play. If another person has our back, we might overcome this paralyzing fear of calling a psychiatrist or a doctor and get the help we deserve.
WHAT CAN I DO TO SUPPORT YOU?
If you cannot figure out what your friend needs, just try to ask them. Most of the time we know what we need, we might appear shy to call it out though. Please, be patient with us. I, for myself, get blocked by a deep episode and will most likely only communicate in a non-verbal manner, and only with my partner.
YOU ARE ENOUGH
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WANNA GRAB A PIZZA AND TALK?
Hardly anyone can deny pizza. Sometimes, talking is the best medicine to overcome a slightly harsher period. Our feelings are all over the place, discussing them with a good friend can be a true stress-reliever. Me and my partner practice that a lot. It helps us to understand one another better and benefits the bond in our relationship.
CAN I GIVE YOU A HUG?
Warning: Don’t you dare to touch me in a depressed state without asking. I will certainly freak out. It highly depends on the person if this is an appropriate step or not. That’s why you should always ask before you just try to hug someone. But trust me, a hug given by the right person can help a lot.
WHAT ARE YOU FEELING RIGHT NOW?
As mentioned above, talking about your feelings will help you to reflect on them and understand where their origin lays. Trust me, analyzing your emotions for a longer period of time will help you to comprehend your mind and thought process. But be aware: not all of us are able to analyze our emotions and tell you right away what we feel. Depression has a lot to do with the feeling of being overwhelmed with our emotional state.
I BELIEVE YOU
Now, many people say: “I understand you.” which is a mistake if you don’t personally suffer from MDD. Try this one instead. This is a sentence I was so desperate to hear, especially as I was a child. For a lot of people, it is hard to grasp something they aren’t able to see. Therefore, it is hard to comprehend the feelings we go through each time we suffer from an episode of MDD.
CAN YOU EXPLAIN THIS TO ME?
To understand what our problem is, and to reassure that we aren’t a burden to you, try to ask us different things so you can understand us a bit better. Sometimes, viewing problems from another point of view might help us realize why we reacted the way we did.
NO MATTER WHAT YOU TELL ME, I WON’T LEAVE YOU ALONE.
I’m an introvert, therefore I don’t really mind being alone at times. But loneliness can be the killer in an episode of MDD. I always isolate myself when I start to feel an episode coming up, but I know that this behavior could badly injure me. These are the words I am so thankful to hear. We might not say it, but we don’t want to be left alone in times like this.
Thinking: Mentally ill people tend to think differently than you do. So don’t just talk like you would do to someone who hasn’t got a mental health issue, you might make things worse.
The situation: You cannot change the situation, but you can change your actions.
Empathy: Try to put their shoes on. It is a hard task to actually understand and ‘feel’ what is going on in our heads, that’s why we are glad that you are patient enough to make an effort.
Those are sentences that lift me up whenever I’m feeling down. Sentences I’d love to hear when there is someone who wants to support me. Now mind you, these worked for me. We are all individuals, therefore, some people might have a different reaction than I did.
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