Dating a young, soon to be scientist

Our trip to Italy in 2017 (c) Nina Misteli

Dating a scientist? Did you ever wonder what it would be like to be in a loving relationship with a young – soon to be – scientist? Then this article might just be for you.


With this article I’d like to introduce you to the both of us as a couple, meet the man who has got my back in any given situation.


Related: About me


I’ve met my partner online. Since we are both introverts, taking advantage of online dating had seemed obvious to us. We hit it off quite quickly. But soon enough I realized, that the sweet guy I met was indeed different than any other.


I remember that he was wearing a suit in his profile picture. His name was a play on the words from Shakespeare’s famous quote “to be or not to be”. I simply love creative minds.


The more we wrote, the more special our conversations got. From the gene modification with the CRISPR CAS 9 to the double orbit of Pluto. Probably things you would be discussing with a possible next partner. But I highly enjoyed our conversations. I personally dislike the idea of small talk. This is one point why I hopelessly fell in love with him. He was funny, charming and intelligent, the perfect match for me.


He studies chemistry at a university here in Switzerland while I’m jobbing as a draftswoman. Before he moved into my apartment, he lived with his parents and didn’t know anything about all the things revolving around the household.



There was one time he wanted to make me some tea. He pulled out a pot and started to heat some water. I told him, that it would be much easier and quicker to use the microwave. He gazed at me with a rather confused expression, then he glanced at the device behind him. I was watching him as he turned his head to me again and said: “How?”


I chuckled. “You don’t know how a microwave works?”


This was the moment I’ve made a clear mistake with my wording.


“Of course I know how a microwave works! I just don’t know how to use it!”


I was teaching him how to use this strange kitchen tool while he explained me from A to Z how microwaves are working. Not in a consumer way, but in technical terms.




There was another incident with the lovely device sitting in the kitchen. One day I walked in on my partner standing in front of the microwave with a questioning expression.


“What are you doing?”


I asked him, tilted my head slightly while watching him gazing at the device.


“How much power does this thing have?”


I got a bit confused about the sudden interest in the power of my microwave. He wasn’t so drawn to it any day before. I answered:


“Well, it’s a cheap one so 700 watts.”


“Oh, I do need at least 1200.”


I was confused. Why would he need a microwave with 1200 watt if we would have one with 700 watts perfectly working? I indeed had the courage to ask him.


“For building a plasma reactor, or more accurately, a plasma-assisted chemical vapor deposition chamber.”


“Please don’t blow up my apartment.”


After a short pause, we both began to laugh. With a more serious attitude he then added:


“Oh of course not! I would build it in the garage.”




As mentioned prior, my partner studies at a university. And I remember as he was talking about his day he was indeed ranting about how recklessly people use up helium.


“I get so angry, seeing balloons filled up with helium at children’s birthday parties! Helium is a rare gas that could be put to better use, such as in rocket science or for cooling super conductors at CERN!”




He is a huge movie enthusiast, especially if the movies play around space and science. There are times he pauses and takes the time to explain the things happening from the perspective of science. Of course, he asks me first if I am interested.


“Do you want to know if that could be possible?”


“Did you know that this will be possible in a few years?”


And I simply love and enjoy seeing how excited he gets over these little things. Also, we are both excited for the release of Alien Covenant in our country! Last year we spent two days on watching every single Alien movie. There is a museum dedicated to the designer of the Xenomorph in Alien who was a Swiss citizen by the name of H.R Giger. We visited the museum after our binge-watching session.


Want to learn more about Giger? Click here!



Waking up early on a Sunday morning is a torture for both of us. We don’t like mornings. But my partner always sits in front of the Livestream when SpaceX launches a new rocket. (Well, recently they’ve relaunched one) Why do I even know this?

I cannot help but watch it myself because let’s be real if you’re as easy fascinated by science as I am, you’d watch too.

Learn more about SpaceX here!

He is a huge fan of Elon Musk’s work. And I need to confess, I do think Elon is an awesome influencer for this world too. Especially his recent invention of the solar roof tiles. I work as a draftswoman and I’m all about environmentally friendly construction and energy efficiency.




I am a geek, therefore, I am fascinated by science, mathematics, and technology. One day I’d love to study engineering. He is supporting and accepting of all the things I’d love to accomplish.

My disorders are no problem to him. We learn together how to fight them, which is a huge relief for me. He teaches me so many new things and our conversation never lack depth, this is something I’ve been looking for so long. I want to have a meaning in the conversations I get involved in. Talking about different topics on a rational basis is incredibly rewarding to me.

And most importantly.

I found the man I want to spend my life with

Those were just a few remarkable incidents that happened over the course of our relationship. I truly could not be happier with anyone else.

Comments · 21

  1. This article is adorable! I am so happy that you found “your person” and your advice is spot on! I love your humor and your stories =) Thanks for sharing this!

  2. Hahahaha I loved this!! I felt like you could be in an episode of Big Bang. “Please don’t blow up my apartment!” “oh no, I’d build my plasma reactor in the garage” lol

  3. Love it! I gotta admit, I love being married to a scientist , except really, don’t ruin the movie for me and tell me that’s not possible. Ha!

  4. How lucky you are to have found someone with similar interests! Definitely funny conversations from an outsiders perspective!

  5. this reminded me of that Friends episode when Monica goes “I’m gonna live with a Boy” LOL
    You two are adorable together anyways 😛 He sounds like an entertaining kind of scientist

  6. This made me giggle! I am a former fashion designer, now author/owner of a boutique publishing company. My husband is a transportation engineer. If I had a dime for everytime he says, “Trust me, I’m an engineer,” I would never need to work again. 😀

    1. I’m actually aiming for a degree in environmental engineering. So I am guilty of saying this as well 😂
      Thank you for the nice reply, have a great day!

  7. Hi Nina!
    I’m so glad I found your blog…it’s lovely! And your English is wonderful…I’m so jealous since I’m trying so hard to learn German so I can talk to my husband’s family when we visit them in Switzerland!
    It’s a small world!
    So happy for you that you found such a wonderful man to love and who loves you! I wish you both a wonderful journey with your studies and your blog. 😉

    1. Hi Stephanie! Thank you so much for those kind words, they made me grin like crazy!
      German is an incredibly difficult language indeed! I’m so happy 😀
      And thank you so much for your inspiring comment! 🌺

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